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Who runs Re:Minds?



Gill Waring - Chief Executive Officer

I founded Re:Minds in 2015 as I found it hard to find local support for parents in my position, I never imagined it would evolve into what it is today.  Before this, I was a primary school teacher and a SENCo with a background in pastoral care and counselling.  I was a member of the steering group for the Southampton Parent Carer Forum for four years, helping to be part of the team setting that up and have been a governor of a specialist school in Hampshire.

I have three children, two of whom receive support from CAMHS for autism, ADHD, anxiety...and many other things!  My interests include walking my dog in the New Forest to escape the chaos of home, trying to crochet, nature and reading.

Angi Carey - Deputy Chief Executive Officer

I joined Re:Minds on the very first session and made friends for life. I worked for a local disabled children’s charity, raising funds through bid writing. I was a founding trustee of Adhara Autism Trust and member of the steering group for the Southampton Parent Carer Forum.

I have 3 children and the youngest is Autistic. My personal hobbies include crochet, practising mindfulness and working on my bullet journal.

Donna Taylor - Resource Manager

Donna has been with Re:Minds since the very early days and volunteers at our group meetings.  In 2021 Donna started running our Resource Library and organises all loans for books and the sensory library equipment.  

Teresa Bridges - Diversity Lead for LGBTQ+

Teresa has been with Re:Minds since the first meeting and we were delighted when she became part of the team in 2021. Teresa's has a wealth of knowledge to support our families around LGBTQ+ issues and is always on hand to offer advice, guidance and support. 

Emma Clayson - Administrative 

Emma joined the team in 2021 and supports us with many of the admin jobs that are needed to keep Re:Minds running. 


Re:Minds has four Directors:

  • Gill Waring

  • Angi Carey

  • Carly Craine

  • Cathy Laver-Bradbury - an honorary Director and advisor

How did Re:Minds start?


When my son was six years old I had to give up a career I loved in order to meet his needs.  Relentless medical and CAMHS appointments made it impossible to teach as well as be there for him.  Soon after, I had my youngest child and for a while, life was an isolating bubble of chaos.


In early 2015 I was introduced to a woman who ran a support group in the New Forest.  Until this point I had avoided all support groups, they didn’t seem to fit my son’s complex needs and the thought of going into a room of sympathetic strangers to talk about our problems filled me with horror!  Nevertheless, I was feeling really isolated, bored having given up work and the thought of doing something which could make a difference seemed like a good idea. So I was invited along to her group with a view to setting up my own version in Southampton.  My vision was for a group that no-one would ever have to pay to access, not even for refreshments.  it would be open to any family member, wherever they lived, and no diagnosis would be needed, it would have a focus on autism, ADHD  and any mental health needs..


I talked to the church at the end of my road to ask if I could borrow a room from them.  I don’t attend church, but my children went to pre-school there and I was taking my youngest to their toddler group.  Amazingly they agreed to help and even offered to do the refreshments…and so Re:Minds was created.  We had our first meeting in September 2015 and I was convinced it would be a failure but at least I could say that I had tried.  I advertised it by contacting the Daily Echo and local radio.  BBC Radio Solent decided to come and interview my son and I and on the morning of the first meeting they aired the interview every half hour – it was bizarre for both of us!

At 10am we had the room all set up for the first meeting and gradually other nervous people started arriving.  We took turns to talk about why we had come and slowly the nerves eased and this inexplicable feeling of mutual support and not being alone took over.  We met once a month and had occasional speakers from Autism Hampshire, Mencap, Carers and Parent Partners.  It amazed me how much we knew between us, no matter what the issue, someone in the group had been through it and could offer advice. 

In early 2017 I started a second group, I felt that whilst the speaker groups were very useful, it would be nice to have longer to talk to other families.  Again the church let us have a free room and so the pop-in meetings began.  This is still a much more relaxed group, we sit together and talk about life, cry together and laugh together.  We have random things to colour in and at times have attempted to learn to knit or crochet together – sometimes it’s good just to forget about the challenges we all face. 

By the summer of 2017 I was finding it increasingly hard to find speakers and self-fund the expenses of the group.  We had worked hard to build links with CAMHS and had been part of the team designing the new autism and ADHD pathway.  However there was a high turn-over of staff there and it was becoming a real challenge to get them to work with us.  I was on the verge of shutting down the speaker meetings and just having the pop-in one once a month.

However, in 2018 a new manager arrived at CAMHS and finally understood what I was trying to do.  She wanted to work with us and offered to organise speakers within her staff for whatever topic we wanted.  After years of trying to chip away at the wall surrounding CAMHS this was a huge thing for us.  We were able to work with CAMHS to help feedback the good and bad things we were hearing from our parents, we were part of interviews for new clinicians, went to staff training days and helped them present workshops. We also managed to get CAMHS to offer a drop-in clinic (we had been trying to get this since 2016), so every other month a CAMHS manager is there for anyone to come and seek advice about an issue their child is facing. CAMHS began giving parents our leaflet when they first contacted them for a referral ands so things began to grow fast!  This finally spurred me on to think about expanding Re:Minds, having run for almost four years without any funding at all, and I began writing reports to try and get funding.

At the beginning of 2019 the CCG (Clinical Commissioning Group for the NHS in Southampton) asked to meet with me to find out more about what we were doing.  Nervous, I went armed with an action plan of new things we wanted to do…if we had the money!  In the spring of 2019 the CCG agreed to fund two new groups for a year and finally we were able to start planning for other things.  

We have now seven different support groups which run at different times across a month, a mix of face to face and some virtual.  We spend a lot of time offering 1:1 support for families, going to meetings with them when possible and giving them advice and signposting or helping with paperwork.  The private Facebook group grows daily and means we can keep in contact with those who can't get to groups.  


In May 2020 were lucky enough to win five years of funding from The National Lottery Community Fund and this has secured Re:Mind's future.  We are now a registered community interest company under the name 'The Re:Minds Group CIC" and we are expanding even further with amazing registered volunteers to help us run things.

Re:Minds has taught me that there is power in having a collective voice, together we have been able to change small things within the system. It takes time and can be frustrating, but it is making a difference.  


A lot has happened since I started Re:Minds in 2015. My son went from a part-time mainstream school where I battled for an EHCP, to a specialist secondary school with a full time teaching assistant.  He was signed off of school by CAMHS in the autumn of 2017 with severe depression, dissociative state, psychosis and anxiety and spent six months in an adolescent psychiatric hospital.  Within six months of returning to his special school, they said they could no longer meet his needs and he had to leave so he is now at home and has tutors, it’s not ideal but we are plodding on.  His little sister now has an Autism and anxiety diagnosis – so we are going through the process of fear and uncertainty all over again - but this time it's so much easier because we have all the experiences and support of other families too. 

My family has gone through things I never imagined in 2015 when Re:Minds began. The group has been the constant, the one place I can talk to other people who just get it. I have made friends I know I will have for the rest of my life there.  I cannot change the diagnosis my children have, but focusing my energy into trying to make a difference to the system helps more than I ever imagined possible.